Questions to Ask Before Moving In Together
Moving in together is exciting, and it goes smoother when you talk about the details first. These questions to ask before moving in together cover the practical stuff - rent and bills, chores, cleanliness, routines, guests, pets and alone time - plus a few bigger ones about what this step means for each of you.
Go through the list over dinner or press play to take one card at a time on one phone or two. Write down what you agree on, like who pays which bill or how often you clean. Small conversations now prevent many arguments later, and you will learn a lot about each other's habits along the way.
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What's a city you'd love to live in someday?
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What's one adventure you want us to have this year?
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What's a trip we absolutely have to take together?
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If we had a family motto, what would it be?
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Would I rather live in a city or the countryside one day?
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Do I want to travel the world or settle down?
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Would I rather have a big house or a small cozy one?
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Would I rather learn to surf or learn to ski?
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What country do I most want to visit?
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Live abroad or Stay close to home?
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Early retirement or Dream job forever?
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Farm life or City life?
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Big wedding or Small wedding?
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Dog or Cat?
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House by the sea or Cabin in the woods?
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Where do you see us in five years?
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What's something you want to achieve before you turn 50?
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What does your dream home look like?
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How do you picture our ideal retirement?
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What's a skill you'd like us to learn together?
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What's a career change you've thought about?
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How do you want our weekends to look in ten years?
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What traditions do you want us to keep forever?
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What would you like to be doing every day when you're 70?
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Would I rather retire early or work on something I love forever?
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Do I want to live near family in the future?
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Where do I want to live in ten years?
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What's one thing on my bucket list?
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What would I do if I didn't have to work?
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Travel the world or Buy a home?
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Kids soon or Kids later?
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What legacy do you want to leave behind?
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What's a future worry you'd like us to plan for?
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What's the best money you've ever spent?
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What's one thing you'd happily cut back on to save money?
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Would I rather save for a trip or buy something now?
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Do I check my bank account every day?
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Would I rather split the bill or take turns paying?
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Do I prefer experiences or things as gifts?
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Save it or Spend it?
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Experiences or Things?
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Joint account or Separate accounts?
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Budget app or Spreadsheet?
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Cash or Card?
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Splurge on travel or Splurge on food?
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What did your family teach you about money?
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Are you more of a saver or a spender?
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What's a money goal you'd like us to reach together?
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How do you feel about having a shared budget?
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What's something worth splurging on, in your opinion?
What should you discuss before moving in together?
How you will split rent and bills, chores, cleanliness standards, daily routines, guests, pets, personal space and what the move means for your future.
How should couples split rent?
Some split evenly, others split by income. Talk about what feels fair to both of you and revisit it if things change.
What if we have different cleanliness standards?
Very common. Agree on a basic standard and a chore plan, and check in after the first month.
How soon is too soon to move in together?
There is no fixed rule. These questions help you see if you are on the same page about the practical and emotional side.