Weekly Relationship Check-In Questions

A weekly check-in is a simple habit with a big effect. These weekly relationship check-in questions give you a short structure: celebrate what went well, talk about anything that felt off and agree on one thing each of you needs in the coming week.

Pick the same time each week, like Sunday evening. Choose five or six questions from the list, take turns and keep it to twenty minutes. Save your favorites so you can reuse them. These questions support everyday communication and are not a replacement for therapy - if you are struggling, please seek professional help.

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  1. 1

    When did you last feel really close to me?

  2. 2

    What's something we used to do that you miss?

  3. 3

    What's been taking up most of your energy recently?

  4. 4

    What's one thing I could do that would make you feel more appreciated?

  5. 5

    What's a recent moment when you felt proud of me?

  6. 6

    What's one thing you'd love us to plan together?

  7. 7

    What's a small ritual we could start to stay connected every day?

  8. 8

    What's been on your heart that you haven't shared?

  9. 9

    What's something new you've discovered about yourself lately?

  10. 10

    What's the best part of your day, most days?

  11. 11

    How are you feeling about us this week, on a scale of 1 to 10?

  12. 12

    What's one thing I did this week that you appreciated?

  13. 13

    Is there anything that's been bothering you that we haven't talked about?

  14. 14

    What's one thing we could do better next week?

  15. 15

    How's your stress level right now, and how can I help?

  16. 16

    Did you feel heard by me this week?

  17. 17

    What's a moment this week when you felt close to me?

  18. 18

    What are you looking forward to in the coming week?

  19. 19

    Are we spending enough quality time together?

  20. 20

    How balanced do our responsibilities feel right now?

  21. 21

    What's something we should celebrate?

  22. 22

    What's one goal for us for next month?

  23. 23

    Is there anything you've been holding back from telling me lately?

  24. 24

    What's something you need more of from me right now?

  25. 25

    When do you feel lonely, even when we're together?

  26. 26

    What does a good week together look like for you?

  27. 27

    How can I support you better during stressful times?

  28. 28

    Is there anything you need from me that you're not getting?

  29. 29

    Is there a conversation we've been avoiding?

  30. 30

    How are you doing — really?

What should a weekly relationship check-in include?

Appreciation for the week, anything that felt hard, upcoming plans and one need each of you has for the next week.

How long should a weekly check-in take?

Fifteen to twenty minutes is enough. Keep it short so it stays easy.

What if we skip a week?

No problem - just pick it up again. Consistency matters more than perfection.

Can we use the same questions every week?

Yes. A few repeated questions make it easy to notice changes over time.