Bedtime Questions for Couples

The last half hour before sleep is often the only quiet time couples get all day. These bedtime questions are made for it: calm, cozy prompts about your day, your memories and your small hopes, with nothing that will keep you up arguing. They are easy to answer with the lights low and a phone between you.

Open the game on one phone, pick a gentle level and take turns answering. Three or four questions is enough for a sweet end to the day; on a slow night you can keep going. If one of you is away, start a room and play over a call before you both hang up. Free, private, and nothing to install.

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    Who is most likely to fall asleep mid-sentence?

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    Who is most likely to need a glass of water at night?

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    Who is most likely to stay up scrolling on their phone?

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    Who is most likely to wake up with a crazy dream to tell?

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    What was the best moment of your day?

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    What's something you're grateful for tonight?

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    What's on your mind as you fall asleep?

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    What's a dream you remember vividly?

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    What's one thing you're looking forward to tomorrow?

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    What's a worry you'd like to leave behind before sleeping?

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    If you could dream about anything tonight, what would it be?

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    What did I do today that you liked?

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    What's something you've never said out loud before?

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    What's your favorite bedtime routine?

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    What's a memory that always makes you feel calm?

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    What would make tomorrow a great day for you?

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    What's something about us you're thankful for tonight?

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    What's the coziest place you've ever slept?

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    What's one kind thing you did for yourself today?

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    What's a song that helps you fall asleep?

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    What's a small thing that would make our nights cozier?

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    What's something kind someone did for you today?

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    What's the funniest thing that happened today?

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    What would you like to dream about together?

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    Fan on or Fan off?

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    Big spoon or Little spoon?

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    Read before bed or Scroll before bed?

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    Silence or White noise?

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    Window open or Window closed?

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    Wake up early or Sleep in?

What should couples talk about before bed?

Light reflections work best: the best moment of the day, something you are looking forward to, a happy memory. Save heavy topics like money or big decisions for daytime.

Are these questions okay for a new relationship?

Yes. Most of them are gentle and personal without being too intense, so they work whether you have been together for weeks or years.

Can we use the game with the screen dimmed?

Yes. The game is simple text on a card, so it is easy to read on low brightness. Your phone's night mode works fine with it.

How many bedtime questions should we ask?

Three to five is a nice routine. The goal is to connect, not to finish the list, so stop whenever you feel sleepy.