Future Questions for Couples
Talking about the future helps you make sure you are walking in the same direction. These future questions for couples cover the near term (next holiday, next move) and the long term (careers, home, family, the kind of life you want at 60). Some are practical and some are dreamy, and both are useful.
Pick a relaxed evening and take turns answering. Listen for what excites your partner and what worries them. You do not need to agree on everything today; the goal is to understand each other's hopes. Play on one phone or two, and save favorites to revisit next year and see how your answers change.
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Would I rather live in a city or the countryside one day?
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Do I want to travel the world or settle down?
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Would I rather retire early or work on something I love forever?
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Would I rather have a big house or a small cozy one?
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Do I want to live near family in the future?
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Would I rather learn to surf or learn to ski?
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Where do I want to live in ten years?
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What's one thing on my bucket list?
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What country do I most want to visit?
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What would I do if I didn't have to work?
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Who is most likely to become famous one day?
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Who is most likely to start their own business?
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Who is most likely to move abroad?
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Who is most likely to write a book?
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Who is most likely to run a marathon?
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Who is most likely to become a great parent?
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Who is most likely to retire early?
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Who is most likely to live to 100?
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Who is most likely to own a farm someday?
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Who is most likely to learn to play an instrument later in life?
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Where do you see us in five years?
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What's a city you'd love to live in someday?
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What's something you want to achieve before you turn 50?
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What does your dream home look like?
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What's one adventure you want us to have this year?
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How do you picture our ideal retirement?
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What's a skill you'd like us to learn together?
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What legacy do you want to leave behind?
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What's a career change you've thought about?
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What's a trip we absolutely have to take together?
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How do you want our weekends to look in ten years?
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What's a future worry you'd like us to plan for?
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What traditions do you want us to keep forever?
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If we had a family motto, what would it be?
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What would you like to be doing every day when you're 70?
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Live abroad or Stay close to home?
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Early retirement or Dream job forever?
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Travel the world or Buy a home?
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Farm life or City life?
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Big wedding or Small wedding?
Why should couples talk about the future?
Shared plans reduce surprises and help you support each other's goals. It also feels good to dream together.
What future questions should we start with?
Start with something light like "Where do you want to travel next?", then move to bigger topics like careers, home and family.
What if our plans are different?
Different plans are common. Talk about what matters most to each of you and look for options that respect both.
How often should we revisit these questions?
Once or twice a year is great - around an anniversary or New Year is an easy habit.